Perimenopause and Death = Laughter


Mental Meandering and
Random Writing Reality from a
Sapphic Spec-fic Writer Who Overshares.

Spec-fic: fantasy, dystopian, sci-fi, paranormal, steampunk...and anything else where you get to play in other worlds with other creatures.

A great chat amidst the darkness.
Who doesn't love a butch on a dragon?
Audible excitement, again.
Newsletter reminder.


There's no question that the world is in chaos. America is in a live production of 1984, (Don't believe your own eyes!) and several other countries are slowly, and more quietly, following the lead into the right.

People are scared. They're angry. They're overwhelmed. Helplessness makes it feel so big, so intense. And it is. And it's okay to feel all the feelings, to rage against the injustices and cry when we watch a protector gunned down by the people meant to be part of the legal system.

Are you listening? You need to hear this:

You must take care of yourself, too. In all the chaos, in the darkness, in the tunnels of never-ending fear, you need to safeguard your mental health. All that noise out there? It will be there whether you think about it or not. If you can't stop thinking about it, if it swirls around in your head non-stop, you're going to burn out. You need to step away from it in order to keep yourself strong. I'm not saying ignore it; I'm saying in order to continue trying to deal with it, you, too, must be okay within yourself.

Laughing in the darkness can allow some light in.

Yesterday I had a truly fabulous chat with April and Daizi over at Bare Books Podcast. We talked about cancer. About hospital visits, unannounced family drop-ins, perimenopause (I put them on notice I was about to strip down because I was suddenly on fire), and about the vagaries of aging.

And April said, "But you're not dead."

That's right. At least we're not dead. Dark humor is a beautiful way to see past the shadows. And it's really, really good for your mental health. It reminds you that there's more than tragedy, more than autocracy, more than empires crumbling. There's also today. Here, and now, and the people we've surrounded ourselves with. Our loved ones, sitting right beside us. All that, out there, isn't right here.

We must find balance in order to stay strong.

Okay. That was a bigger ramble than I'd anticipated. I'm nearly 80k into my next Ally McGuire book, and I'm finally on schedule. My next Brey book is very likely to include butches riding dragons, because that's the kind of mood I'm in, and I've never written anything like that before. It feels good to have story ideas coming at me again; we agreed in our chat last night that some escapism might be just what a lot of us need right now. The interview with Bare Books Podcast will come out around Valentine's Day, so head over there and listen to their awesome chats.

Be strong. Take care of yourself. Laugh.


Audible news

The Heart Remembers, narrated by Abby Craden, is officially available for pre-order. I've listened to the very beginning, and I have to say, I understand why people go crazy over her. What a voice! Release date is February 24th.


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